Day 15: to a Great Marriage - Find the Happy Spot!

Well, how did you do yesterday with Day 14 -- Use Affirming Words? It is probably one of the best things you can do not just for your marriage, but for your life!

Okay, today's suggestion for a Great Marriage is to...

DAY 15: TO A GREAT MARRIAGE - Find the Happy Spot!

“For the two of us, home isn’t a place. It is a person. And we are finally home.” ―Stephanie Perkins

When it comes to marriage, the above statement says alot. When you are happy in marriage it doesn't matter where you live, or what kind of house you live in, how much money you have to decorate and buy new furniture with, et al., because your house is not your home. You are going through life with someone you love and who loves you, and (as the plaque in my kitchen says) "Love is a beautiful place to live."

Now, lest I sound totally Pollyanna, let me add that, sad to say it can take years before a couple realizes this truth. But, it doesn't have to. Happiness in marriage results from going through ALL of life together, lovingly, and the resultant "Happy Spot" can be realized any time. Check this out - 10 "Things Happy Couples Do Differently"...

1.  They make plenty of time for each other.
2.  They don’t beat around the bush.
3.  They meet in the middle and work together.
4.  Their actions consistently backup their claims of love.
5.  They respect each other’s humanness.
6.  They focus on what they like about each other.
7.  There is far more between them than physical attraction.
8.  They resolve conflicts through love, not retaliation.
9.  They open up to each other, especially in trying times.
10. They are committed to growing together.

The author has some good things to say about each point, and wraps up with...

"The best relationships are not just about the good times you share, they’re also about the obstacles you go through together, and the fact that you still say “I love you” in the end.  And loving someone isn’t just about saying it every day, it’s showing it every day in every way."

 So, for today go over the list of "10 Things Happy Couples Do Differently" together and discuss how you are doing in each area and what you need to do to find the "Happy Spot."

And we can't talk about becoming a happy couple without pointing out again that the happiest couples are the ones that have God central in their marriages -- which gives them a real edge on finding the "Happy Spot." (for more on this See Day 13)

Thanks!